Assalamualaikum and hye everyone!
It's been more than 2 months since I gave birth to my first baby. So I guess it's time for me to share with you my labour story. I've been repeating the same story for more than 30 times now, to all my family and friends. 😂 Alhamdulillah it was quite fast and smooth, but still a little bit painful journey for me. I just feel so relieved and thankful that it was over now.
Friday's Night - 2nd November 2018
It's all started on the night before my labour day. I was just relaxing on my bed, scrolling down my social medias while B was playing his PS4. Suddenly I saw blood stain on my bed, I told B and he immediately freak out. 😂 It was so funny seeing how freak out he was.
I took my shower, taking my time, still calm and relaxing. And when I finished showering I realised that B was taking his shower in other bathroom, rushing, not calm at all. 😂
I went downstair, told my parents, and they asked whether my amniotic fluid's leaks. I said no. They calmly said just go to bed and go to the hospital the next morning. 😂
Saturday - 3rd November 2018
8am - Woke up early and went to find breakfast nearby hospital area. Found like pasar pagi, had a lot of foodstalls. I eat everything that I want because let's face it, I won't be able to eat any of them after my delivery. Kuey teow goreng, ayam tepung goreng, kuih-muih, etc.
Thank you so much to all of the hospital's staffs, midwife, nurses, doctor and houseman. They were very nice and supportive. Best walaupun tak ambil private wing pun, hospitality memang tip top la. Lagipun tak ramai orang pun dalam wad tu. Maybe sebab Sabtu 😂 It was very comfortable and the and the nurses were very helpful.
I asked Dr. Google whether I can still pray, and yes, I can still pray because it's not darah nifas.
10am - You know, the hardest part of the delivery is actually when the doctor checking for the cervical dilation. Oh man, the pain was something else. Maybe my body was shocked. Contraction wasn't this bad! That's what I thought at first. 😂 It was 3 centimeters dilated, so I need to be warded. Thankfully it was weekend and the visiting hours was from 12pm - 7pm. So B was with me all the time. Just that... he was sleeping on my bed. 🤷🏻♀️ Thank you, B. So I did my exercises, praying and calming myself, preparing to see my baby.
3pm - Second time to check how many centimetres dilated. I was still very much traumatized from the first one. Oh God, the second time is still hurts really bad! To my disappointment, it was still 3 centimeters dilated! I thought it was already 7 centimeters or something. 😂 And this time around, the doctor (different doctor) was trying to open up the way. I don't know what she did, but I felt so much pain. I ended up crying really bad in the toilet. When I came back to my bed, my parents were already there. I can't control my tears and I cried some more. B was really worried, he hugged me and consoled me while my mom, being an asian mom said, "Memang la macam tu. Tahan je la." while playing her phone 😂 And then... the real contraction started to kick in. Man I was wrong about contraction and hypnobirthing whattt 🤷🏻♀️
Konon nak hypnobirthing la kan, tak sempat pergi kelas pun, sempat tengok youtube a few videos je. Podcast dekat iphone ingat nak dengar, tapi tak sempat. So macam okayh its all about your mind je ni. Lepas tu bila contraction betul-betul jadi, ha kelaut semua hypnobirthing kau. Mental lemah gila, terus tak ingat apa-apa. Hypnobirthing is also about breathing, ha breathing pun kelaut. Tak boleh jerit sebenarnya sebab buang tenaga, takde makna I jerit je dekat wad tu. Kacau patient lain pun tak ingat dah common courtesy ke apa. Nasib baik ada husband yang keep reminding me you can do it and count the breathing techniques together. Ok lepas ni kena pergi kelas hypnobirthing betul-betul, tengok mat saleh relax je. I can do it next time. Ok la for someone yang belajar sendiri dekat youtube je 😂
But I'm still glad I came prepared with some knowledge at least. Some is better than nothing. 😂 I struggled to have a relax calm and empowering delivery. I'm trying to learn whatever I knew, but when you're in pain, you don't remember anything. Thank God B was there supporting me all the way till the end. It was an ups and downs journey. Sometimes I'm strong, sometimes I just wanted to give up. I remembered how most of the time, I just wanted to give up. But I power through. 💪🏻 Alhamdulillah. Thanks to my husband for the support and for keep reminding me to breath in 4 and breath out 8.
6pm - The third check up was supposed to be on 7pm. But I was in so much pain. I screamed really bad I think the whole ward can hear me. 😂 I asked B to call for the doctor. But when the doctor came, I was really scared so I asked the doctor to wait. Me and B keep on walking in the ward for some exercise, and the doctor saw me in real pain. So the doctor asked whether I want to check now, I was like whatever, I'm in pain, let just do this quickly. 😂 Alhamdulillah it was 6 centimeters this time. And the doctor quickly want to break my amniotic fluid. I'm like, "What are you doing?" They asked me to relax and I can feel my amniotic fluids flows. I was immediately being taken to bed first, say bye bye to my parents and off to the labour room. Serius macam drama apa 😂
6.45pm - When I was pushed into the labour room, I was like, "Wow is this how it looks like? Nothing like television drama." 😂 The room was so small but comfy. That time I feel like I need to poop! 😂 Actually it was the baby. I keep on screaming. Thank God B was there supporting me, keep reminding me to breath in and breath out. The midwife gave me Entonox. "Entonox (gas and air) is a colourless, odourless gas made up of half oxygen and half nitrous oxide. It's also known as laughing gas. It can take the edge off labour pain." But honestly, I don't feel like it lessen my pain at all? 😂
The midwife keep on checking for the cervical dilation. Surprisingly, I no longer feel any pain like the first 3 time, when she checked for the dilation. It was first 7 centimeters. I feel like eternity waiting for the dilation and the doctor! And finally it was 9 centimeters, and the doctor arrived. When the doctor arrived she checked and it was 10 centimeters, she immediately asked me to push. I was like, "Huh? I can push now? Really?" 😂 I was so nervous but too tired to think. I'm not sure how many time I push. The midwide was very helpful and supportive. She reminded me not to waste my energy screaming my lung out. She keep on saying that how good I am, because I know how to push. Thank you. 🌸
7.28pm - Finally, alhamdulillah my baby's safely born. And she is healthy. And behave. And perfect. Alhamdulillah. Immediate skin to skin. I love this hospital, they did all the birth plan that I wanted eventhough I don't specifically ask for it. Then, I thought the hardest part was over. It wasn't over yet. Kena jahit pula dah. 😭 The midwife took my baby because I was restless. It was only 15 minutes skin to skin. She took the baby to weight her and gave to my husband to azan her. Sakit gila jahit adoi. 30 minit sejam juga la. Tapi rasa macam lamanyaaaaaa. Lepas habis jahit, sambung skin to skin and breastfeed.
9.30pm - Finally I can go back to the ward. Ayah kiss me, of course. While Mak just wanted to see the baby. 😂 Hello Mak, I'm here! I was the one who's in pain.
I'm glad that I'm having contraction in the evening, I have my husband's support. Kalau tengah malam sorang-sorang dalam wad lagi sedih. I dah la manja lembik semua 😂 Kesian tengok patient depan ni kena hadap contraction sorang-sorang malam tu.
And I kira laju la lepas masuk labour room terus beranak. Orang lain 12 jam la apa la. Alhamdulillah. Allah tolong. I really push my body like crazy, please cooperate with me. I'm just too tired. 😂
Alhamdulillah, thank you Allah for easing my pregnancy journey and labour journey. You always knows what's the best for me. 🌸
Dear Nafeesa 👶, thank you for being so behave. Alhamdulillah you are healthy, behave and perfect. I love you already! 💙
